I am posting this blog on January 16th, 2020. This is a message for me, from me, AND for YOU. Eight years ago today, at 8:20 AM, my Bride, Barbara, transitioned from this life. I am Blessed for all of the lessons she has taught me. In fact, I would not be writing this blog or working to create the Masters of the Journey community without this direct influence. Please, DO NOT think or Feel, “Poor John”. I am not a victim! I am a soul, just like you, struggling with life’s amazing challenges. Most of us have experienced the loss of the loved one, a friend, or a relationship. If you have walked this Earth in this life, for any amount of human time, you know how life can change. Times of change are often the most important times of growth and learning.
My Bride transitioned 8 years ago after our 30 years of relationship and after 8 1/2 years of living with Ovarian Cancer. The brutal struggle was filled with Joy and Growth. We grew closer. Our Love seemed to delve into the darkest places of anger, pain, and frustration, yet, it found ways to glow with warmth. For me, the lessons of empathy and the meaning of living while struggling with our human mortality was led by my wife. She demonstrated focus and stubbornness to live as long as she possibly could so her passing-over actually came as a shock to me. Two months before she died from our life together, she asked me to “not forget her” which with a knee-jerk reaction I complied. Not really knowing or understanding this promise which I had made. This is not unusual for me because I am naive about many of the things in this life that I have signed on for.
The void in my life when she moved on was a huge surprise. Though I had 8 1/2 years to prepare, I was taken by surprise. The vacuum in my life was much larger than I could have imagined. This is part of my lesson, my learning, and the message I am here to share. Sure you know that Life is precious. You assume the obvious that my wife of 28 years+ and the mother of my children would be “missed,” but that is not the story. Barbara, in spirit, has guided and protected me since January 16th of 2012. Her “presence” has given me stories to share. She has helped create every act of service I have engaged within. Our shared story lives to be a beacon for others to follow and to learn from.
Never consider any personal loss without reflecting on what you have been asked by the Divine Spirit to gain from a difficult life experience. Find a way to celebrate the Joy of life as you dance through the “mine-field” of life’s challenges. You came here to learn, and even enjoy, the bruises and bumps you find along the way. You chose to create the life you lead with your successes and with your awkward mis-steps… Any losses create the opportunity to appreciate your Blessings and your connections. AND, every person you bump into along the way offers you an opportunity to exchange love and wisdom from experience, even if born out of the pains which accompany you through your mortal life. You are made stronger as you are swept along in the rapids of the River of Life.
Also, find your way to remember the perfection and the Divinity within you. You are a Miracle! Look within to feel, and accept, the guidance of the Divine. It bubbles up, often in a subtle feeling, when you are at the crossroads of your life. You have read this far into this blog post for a reason… You were meant to find this consciousness and to go out and to celebrate the incredible experiences of your life, even with the bumps and bruises. Please share your story and serve by witnessing the story-telling of the souls you meet along the way! Your “Hero’s Journey” continues and your experiences can be of service to the community you live within, if you share YOUR story. By the way, YOU are loved and connected to all the wisdom of the Divine Spirit, just “remember” it and feel it within…
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I Love You! I will always Love my Bride, Barbara!!!
Yes, I was able to open the link and be blessed by what you have shared. Thank you John for your strength and encouragement you have to offer those around you. Miss you! I love you, Shirlene
Thank you, Shirlene. Your radiant energy is a Blessing!
Nice blog John and a good reminder of the opportunity of embracing life again through death. I was in victim mode far too long after my husband of only 47 died after only 16 years together. I suppose I needed others to realize and appreciate the depth of my pain. Alas, when friends started disappearing, I learned it was not their job and I needed to reinvent my life without my husband.
Meeting new people and the exchange of love & wisdom of which you speak was so instrumental in helping me climb out of the hole I had dug for myself.
Important to note….I also was comforted over and again by dreams of my late husband and knowledge of his presence and his orchestration in my life to this day. He still lives and so should we, fully!
Your comments and perspective will assist a lot of people. THANK YOU!
John, Thank you for your personal sharing and the spiritual learning from your experience. It caused me to reflect on the passing of my Marilyn after 53 years of marriage in 2014. I decided at that time to start what has grown into the Rossmoor Mindful Living Club. Be sure to stop in next time you visit your sister. We see her most mornings at our morning meditation.
Awesome, Dick. You are a Miracle and I thank you for the service you have been guided to create. Be well, My Friend.
As always, John, your articles/posts are so inspiring! I am sure that Barbara was an amazing woman if she left behind the bright imprint of love shining from you.
Yes she is amazing! AND, we are all full of the Joy, the Wonder, and the Amazing Grace of the Divine Spirit! But, I might not have had these conscious beliefs without her guidance, love, and support, then and now… Be well, Laura!
Thank you John for this Soulful sharing, your acknowledgement of your bride is deeply touching and many of us get to enjoy the blessings that came out of your fruitful union, as your light is shining bright and your heart is touching many. Thank you for who you are and for all that you give. Deepest Blessings. 💙🙏💙
Its a Blessing to have have you and Gil in my life. I know that our time together has continued to assist me in opening my heart and soul to the Magic of the Divine. Its great to be walking the Earth plane with you.
Great blog John – filled with powerful insights to guide one with a bit more grace through life’s journey. Barbara touched many lives, including my own of course, and this aspect of her Spirit lives on not only in our memories but in our ever-expanding relationship to Life. That pay-forward energy is in fact a legacy that will continue to send ripples of gratitude throughout infinity.
Awesome and thanks, my friend. Your words add value to the process we are sharing. AND, to consciously consider, and then, pay it forward, are the ingredients of the life we seek to live…